Most people, if asked, would probably say that they love themselves. But when you start to look at how they treat themselves, a different answer begins to emerge. Its easy to get caught up in the pressure to look, be and act a certain way; so easy in fact that we mayact more lovingly towards others than we do to ourselves. Im talking about societal,religious, family or peer group beliefs or pressure to behave a certain way, do a certain job or make yourself believe you should be in the world that might not align with who you really are.
The more time you spend trying to conform to everyone elses expectations, the more lost and less loving towards yourself you may become.
Here are 7 things you wont do if you really love yourself how do you stack up?
1. You wont over commit.
People who love themselves know how to say no to a lot of things so they can say yes to the things that are really important to them. While people may try toguilt or pressure you into a yesfrom time to time, setting boundaries with time and energy is a great sign of self-love.
2. You wont be afraid to ask for help.
You know how to put down your cape. You know you dont have to be all things to all people and you dont have to do everything yourself. You love yourself enough to know when you need help or when you will be honoring and helping another by letting them get involved.
3. You wont rely on others to make you happy.
Happiness is an inside job. If you wait for the perfect job, the perfect friend, a romantic outing planned by someone else you mayfind yourself waiting to be happy.If you really love yourself, you will know what makes you happy and have things to turn to when other things are going as planned. I have a Happy List a written list of things I like to do, from reading to going for a walk to my dream vacation. When Im feeling less than happy, I grab my list and do something from the list. Its up to ME to bring as much happiness into my life as possible, I cant put that on someone else.
4. You wont compare yourself to others.
They say comparison is the thief of joy and I couldnt agree more. Comparing your life, your job, your success tosomeone else is arecipe for disaster. Becauseyou really love yourself, you knowthat what you see on social media is the edited, often glamorous version of someones life. You dont have all the information and know thatits best to focus on yourself and stop the comparison game.
5. You wont second guess your decisions.
While some people can make decisions quickly and others deliberate a long time, people who love themselves dont second guess the decisions they make that cant be undone. If you chose to go skiing and wish you were on a sandy beach, you know that second guessing the choice will just make you feel bad about yourself. You learn from decisions and might make different ones the next time, but you dont spend time and energy second guessing yourself.
6. You wont feel guilty for taking me time.
When you fly, they always remind you that in the case of an emergency, put the oxygen mask on yourself before helping others. People who love themselves realize that that applies to everyday life as well. Taking some me time to do things you enjoy and that renew you isnt selfish, its vital. You know that you are at your best when self-care is a priority.
7. You wont beat yourself up for making a mistake.
You forgive yourself, just as you forgive others, for making mistakes. Many people put so much pressure on themselves to be perfect and then beat themselves up when they arent not you! Because you love yourself, you knowthat you are human and that you can learn from your mistakes. You find the silver lining or the lesson and move on, forgiving yourself and focusing on the future instead of beating yourself up for something that happened in the past.
Because you love yourself, you also know that you will actually do some of these things from time to time and you will remember #7 and not beat yourself up. The best form of self love is self-awareness, seeing when you are being unloving towards yourself and changing course. Loving yourself doesnt mean you are perfect, it means you take care of yourself, are kind to yourself and show up in the world asbest way you can every day.
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